Shame is described as a painful feeling that we are somehow flawed and unworthy of being loved. It can be triggered by our own unhealthy mind chatter or when someone says something nasty to us, and we take it in as truth.
We attach shame to situations and diseases, as if it was our inadequacy, or wrong doing, that caused these events to come about. We believe that we failed to “keep ourselves healthy,” or “do the right thing,” and so in turn, so “made” ourselves sick.
Lori La Bey of Alzheimer’s Speaks and I had a conversation about the shame that comes in the caregiving journey when one has Alzheimer’s disease or another disease that causes dementia.
Please listen and share. The more we talk about this, the less power it has in our minds and in our hearts.
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